Do you ever notice that when you spend too much time with someone, you begin to pick up on their habits? Maybe it’s the way they speak, the slang they use, or even their hand gestures and sense of style. We’re naturally drawn to people we like, and subconsciously begin to imitate them a little bit. Dale Carnegie used this human phenomenon to explain how people can people influence others by changing their own behaviors.

Life is not fair. We’re all born with different talents and skills: different things that make us unique. We tend to think that everyone else is always better than us. That they always have the upper hand. But Ash Ali and Hasan Kubba shows us that we can switch our mindset, to focus not on our disadvantages, but on our unfair advantages—which we all have.

We know creating new habits are difficult, but we are, in fact, creatures of habit. Atomic Habits by James Clear may give us the insight to our behaviors, and how we can change them to our advantage.